What Early Death Really Looks Like

I just found out today that I have a BMI of 42, which is considered very severely morbidly obese, or super obese. Supposedly these people are more at risk of early death and disease and are not mobile.

According to this link here, https://www.google.com/search?q=bmi+of+42&oq=bmi+of+&aqs=chrome.0.69i59j69i57j0l2j69i60.3411j0j4&client=ms-android-americamovil-us&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8#imgrc=_DP2jUwJP8V4cM%3A, people who are morbidly obese like me look like this: 

Curious to see a face behind the statistic? Here you go…me on the way to an early grave.

Still not convinced that I’m really very sick? Here’s another exhibition:

My weight and my health and my life are just awful, aren’t they? I’ll pick out my tombstone on the way to McDobald’s and bury my shame under 60 Big Macs.



  1. Saye Bennett · September 9, 2016

    You’re beautiful! (And mobile too…wow!) 🙂 Yet another example of the so-called “experts” not having a clue about reality.

    • joannadeadwinter · September 9, 2016

      Why thank you! ❤ Notice how I am being myself (albeit in a Halloween costume) and looking good without being a porn star or "high" or queer femme?

      This is what you need to keep in mind when it comes to Obesity…BMI doesn't tell you anything and that's what most Obesity statistics are based on. I was accosted over my weight, even though my doctor said I was perfectly healthy (then what's the problem? Why am I here?) Apparently she found a little yeast under my breasts and she thinks losing weight would help. Well, I hate to break it to you, but women of all sizes can have big breasts and thus have yeast. But I can guarantee you she wouldn't tell a thin but busty woman to get breast reduction.

      She also gave me really condescending advice, like walk two miles a day instead of one. I walk all day long at my job and until recently was spending a hour at the gym walking five miles a day and burning 1300 calories in an hour walking up an incline. But I don't look the way she thinks I should look, so despite having NO health complains or functional impairment…she wants me to be a permanent medical patient. Nope!

      • Saye Bennett · September 9, 2016

        I have found that many physicians are very number/lab/chart- oriented, rather than looking at the actual issues/needs of the patient.

        For example, I’ve had a total thyroidectomy, so my medications have to be monitored very closely. I have been to several doctors over the years.

        They usually just look at the lab results…and that is IT. They don’t ask me how I feel, what my functioning is, whether I am experiencing any symptoms…nothing. It’s “Your lab results are _____ so here’s your prescription for ______”.

        I had one doctor who never even looked up from his tablet the entire time. The room could have been empty and I doubt he would have noticed! (Needless to say, I never went back to him!).

        It sounds like your doctor thinks like that too: “Your BMI is 42 so you need to lose weight”, with no further critical thought nor consideration of you or your actual needs, or the weaknesses of using BMI as the measure of health.

        Grrrrrr…if medicine were THAT simple, we wouldn’t need doctors, any computer can spit out numbers.

  2. purplesagefem · September 9, 2016

    I’d say I’m around the same size as you.

    • joannadeadwinter · September 9, 2016

      Wanna go shopping for a tomb stone with me?

      • purplesagefem · September 9, 2016

        Totally! 🙂

      • joannadeadwinter · September 9, 2016

        I’m so glad I don’t have to die alone in 40-50 years, if I’m lucky!

  3. dĂ©paysement · September 9, 2016

    I’m just … wat … Morbidly obese? Dafuq? Are we supposed to be starved? You’re about my size, probably (I’m 86kg and 162cm) and I’ve never had any doc suggest I’m obese, let alone morbidly. Sure, they say lose a bit of weight, but that’s bog standard with NAFLD, among other conditions.

    • joannadeadwinter · September 9, 2016

      But…but…the chart! Numbers do not lie! From the same docs that brought us the trans trend …

  4. dĂ©paysement · September 9, 2016

    Also if we’re supposed to topple over early,I am feeling cheated. I’m 53 and I’m still here.

  5. joannadeadwinter · September 9, 2016

    I identify as obese because my culture tells me I’m obese and you must respect my identity and give me expensive and risky interventions to change my perfectly healthy normal body, pronto!

    • dĂ©paysement · September 9, 2016

      I identify as wealthy and anyone who doesn’t support this is a shitlord!

  6. grumpyoldnurse · September 9, 2016

    BMIs are BS, IMHO. The weight they come up with doesn’t differentiate between muscle and fat, or make allowances for active fat people or sedentary skinny ones. I’ve met very, very fit, very muscly athletes who would get labeled as obese because of their BMIs, but they had no fat to lose. What are they supposed to do, lose muscle?

    I’m carrying more weight just now than my frame can comfortably hold, but it’s due to stress, and stress eating on my part as a maladaptive coping mechanism. Anyone who was to tell me to lose weight at this point in my life would probably get stepped on.

    • joannadeadwinter · September 9, 2016

      I was prescribed weight loss for a rash. Yeah, a slight temporary problem on one part of my body justifies a radical change of my whole body and my whole life.

      And yes, that’s exactly what’s being asked. That’s why they call these interventions lifestyle changes. Otherwise they would just be those fat diets that healthcare workers bitch about that are totally different from The Real True Weight Loss Method they’re selling. I am an active fat person who has all the nutrients she needs and if she doesn’t like looking at me, that’s her problem.

      • grumpyoldnurse · September 9, 2016

        ::head desk::

        All these years, I though clotrimazole was the way to get rid of yeast. Guess that’s why she’s the doctor, and I’m just a nurse… Wonder if she’d also prescribe weight loss for the other things clorimazole is good at (jock itch and athlete’s foot)?

      • joannadeadwinter · September 9, 2016

        Exactly! But the chart says I’m fat and I’m not the size of a porn star, so obviously there is something wrong with me. She is a woman notably more rotund than me, so I suspect some internalized fat hatred there.

  7. Melanie · September 13, 2016

    Grumpyoldnurse I agree completely. I and one of my siblings gain/build muscle very easily with minimal effort, but neither of us are particularly active. Still, each of us weigh far more than people expect. I have never been athletic, and am rather clutzy. I can remember a time in my early 20s when I tried weight training on a lark to see if I could improve my coordination. I was working full time in retail (thus constantly running around and moving stock, lifting, carrying, etc.) as well as running around a hilly college campus where I attended classes full time. I was in the best shape I could possibly be after a few months of working out. But: my muscle increase meant I gained almost 20 pounds while my dimensions remained virtually the same–I continued to wear essentially the same size, and had a 24″ waist! Meanwhile, all the charts rated me as overweight because my BMI was in the high 20s.

    These days, I’m in my early 40s, more sedentary than I’d like to be, almost 3 sizes bigger, but weigh nearly the same as that time when I was working out. What I once had in muscle, is now mostly fat, and my dimensions considerably bigger. But my BMI is virtually the same as it was all those years ago, so doctors say I’m “stable.” The truth is, I know I’m in worse shape, with not nearly the strength and energy I once had. BMI is meaningless.

    And you, joanna, look fabulous! I’m so glad you wrote this post. More people need to speak out on issues like this. The bs about BMI is doing a lot of damage to the overall health of millions of people by undermining their self-perception and, ultimately, their emotional and spiritual well-being. It’s disgusting.

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