I admit to being very afraid of strange men in private or semi-private places. I think most women feel the same, for good reason. However, I have never hated men or had a problem with men as frienda, co-workers, or non-sexual partners. Maybe even a casual romantic date here and there if he is reasonably attractive and we have things in common. But I have never actually wanted to have sex with a man and I have said as much, to many people, male and female, over and over and over and over.
But it doesn’t penetrate (no pun intended). I rarely spend time alone with men, nor do I generally have close friends with men. All my life, for no particular reason, I have never really crossed paths with men of my own volition, only in paasing because they’re family or I go to school/work with them. I can count on one hand the number of men I have had significant involvement with.
Yet with these few men… it is almost always the same…we talk, hit it off, exchange numbers, and then it begins. He immediately wants to see me alone…spend weekends with me, call or text me daily, sometimes several times a day, sometimes several times in a row, several times a day. They want to know personal details. They want to know everything I’m doing. The bolder and/or more desperate men will immediately start telling me what sexual favors they’re hoping to get out of me.
It used to be I assumed they didn’t know better and I would try to let them down easy or drop hints. That didn’t work. I started being more explicit upfront. That still didn’t work.
Men simply don’t appreciate boundaries.
But I’m not allowed to say that because women who are partnered with men feel the need to talk about hiw great their man is (and I care because…?) And how unfair it is to stereotype. NAMALT, you know.
Well…I hate to inform you…men are like that. Not all, obviously,but many, probably most men are like that to some degree. Men as a group do not appreciate boundaries and either don’t understand or care about women’s privacy or safety.
After all, if men are all different…why has every man I have ever been alone with behaved liked that? If all men are different…don’t you think at least one of the five I have been alone in private with would not be a total creep ot desperate loser?
Yeah. As far as I’m concerned, all men are like that until they prove otherwise. And it’s just as well, because I’m not interested in men anyway.